Assorted thoughts about NYC


  • Full of contradictions, like, I just saw a woman eating from a Popeyes box, waiting for the subway, carrying a shopping bag from Gucci.
  • Everything seems to be a statement. You can’t just be you, you are nothing but a collection of labels and accessories which comply with your labels.
  • I bought into the statement thing: it’s 18:30 and I’m on the subway wearing sunglasses with a cigarette tucked behind my ear.
  • Smokers are possibly the worst kind of people alive.
  • Feels like trying to be cool is still cool here, which is odd, because nobody who is a grown up wants to be cool back home.
  • You can tell who is not a local by whether they jaywalk.
  • I have been going to the places he told me about – they feel special because I imagine him there and wonder how he felt back then – whether we feel the same.



A series of random thoughts

I started wondering the other day if you can develop late life autism. I have this voice in my head that just doesn’t stop. It’s my voice don’t worry, but you know what I mean, I guess people call it overthinking.

If you have a child – do your best to love them. Don’t stifle their creativity. Don’t make them feel like they don’t deserve the space they take but at the same time, don’t make them feel like they deserve more space than they take as well..

If you have good people in your life, love them. But the right way, don’t make them feel bad, feel like they are not able to achieve things, feel like they are not enough. If they are not enough for you, then you don’t love them. You should let them go. Nobody is better off with someone who half heartedly loves them than they are alone.

We are all children still. Like tall ass, fatass, drunkass children, in some way.

Despite who you are; there some things you most likely feel, eventually:
– the love of your life will leave you
– your parents will die
– one of your close friends will get cancer
– you will fail to get that thing you really want
– you will be in a room full of people, and still feel as alone as humanly possible
– you will realize your life doesn’t objectively matter
– most your dreams and aspirations will not come true
– you will hurt someone you really care about really badly and there’s nothing you can do about it, except accepting it and moving on
– and lastly, you will die

To the core, we are single, individual entities. And your tragedy is your own no matter what, regardless of the body suit you wear. And yes, society has been benevolent in some biased, arbitrary way, to certain groups of people in the past (and still nowadays) who had a particular body suit, but everyone’s experience is unique and I don’t think minimizing someone’s pain is the way to foster understanding between people.

Living in denial

I could keep living in denial for a bit longer to avoid introducing any changes in what feels a rather chaotic system. When I was younger, I used to be more brave. I used to believe that nothing could ruin me forever and that things would tend asymptotically towards some good enough state, regardless of where you are. But these days I feel scared. Like I might never be able to do the right things. Life is only lived once and opportunities might really be lost.


And that some things do ruin you. I am, in many ways, less of who I was, when I was younger. I feel like being alive has been very much akin to a long process to erosion.

But you know, denial is for spineless normies. Taking risks is important – if I don’t learn it now, when will I?

I hope by the time this is posted, I will have proclaimed my eternal love to ____. Regardless of the outcome, just know, trying is better than not trying, living is better than not living.


Last night was also the first snow in Z. It was somewhat beautiful, leaving a basement at whatever, 3 AM, and seeing the streets so bright and white. My father would have been 87 that night.


I don’t remember the last time I had an interesting thought. If you’re sad for long enough, this is all you get to feel. These days, even my experience and vocabulary seem far more restricted than they once were.

The Nun Study comes to mind. Documents of hundreds of nuns were made available to researchers, including autobiographical essays the nuns wrote when they joined the convent. One of the findings of the study was the following: the linguistic complexity (and thereof, lack of) of these essays, usually written during their mid-twenties, was a strong predictor for development of Alzheimer’s later in life.

Is my depressed brain beyond repair?


My friend was surprised when I told him I am taking an array of different pills to tame down depression. I figured he’s one of my closest friends in Z and he should know.

But you don’t look depressed at all!

I know he means well, but depression doesn’t have to be obvious. If you have a friend who might be in need, if you might be in need, know that most of the time you are not truly alone and people are human, and they care. A survey states that among the near lethal survivors of suicide, the time lag between the decision and the act is less than one hour for over 70% of the attempts. I don’t know why, but thinking of this statistic has pulled me out of pretty dark holes, and maybe it will be useful for you too.


With love,

stories we tell ourselves

He keeps coming up to me, saying it was proved that hedgefunds are good for society, overall. And I say, fuck off, what the hell do you mean by proof?

There are often lies and stories we tell ourselves to justify our actions. To convince ourselves we aren’t fundamentally bad people, or to convince ourselves that what we are doing is, in a way, right.


He holds my hand when we sleep, so it must mean that he feels something. Surely, it must mean that these last, what, N months have not been a complete waste, an irrational chase hoping that he will change the way he feels about me. Because that would be sad, wouldn’t it? The obvious asymmetry of feelings. There’s a paper saying that often, the perception of friendship is not symmetric. Does this constitute enough of a ‘proof’?

At the restaurant, the overly joyful drunk waiter, who is on his last last shift before he moves to America, insists in knowing our relationship status.

‘So, is she your girlfriend? Your boyfriend?’

An awkward silence ensures and I try to change conversation: ‘Please can I have another red wine?’

‘So, is he your boyfriend?’

‘I am politely ignoring your question, actually.’

‘Ehhh come on! Boyfriend, girlfriend, no problem!’, imagine in a typical fake Italian (really Albanian) accent.


Contrary to popular belief, the worst parts of someone are not poetic nor beautiful – they are just the worst parts, and honestly, they would probably be better off without them. I start accepting that no one should, in their right mind, love me for my flaws and that there are parts of me that ought to be kept private, hidden away.

Maybe there’s a purpose to all these feelings. With the mania and sensory overload, come the voices, the visions, the ideas. I see them so vividly in my mind before. Images, texts, maths.

I don’t know if I would have hidden myself in a world of ideas, if reality had been more pleasant. A few days ago I gave a lecture to 30 people, similar to the one earlier this year to over 100 people. Hopefully, in a few months, it will be again to 100 people. It seemed like it was useful to these people. I have been telling myself, surely one can exist for the purpose of doing things, rather than feeling things.

Short story about living forever part 1

‘Thank you Dr. Krause, we will be in touch with the results of your application’, said the one in the middle, standing up and reaching his hand out.

There was no choice but to shake his hand and effectively acknowledge the interview was over. Krause tried to reason quickly, looking at this hand hovering in the air, but the sweat which kept furiously pouring out of his forehead must have interfered with his already limited social conduct.

‘Could you give me some feedback on the interview?’, he asked bluntly.

This question was taken with some surprise by the panel. The three interviewers looked at each other puzzled, then at him, as if he were some bizarre creature. The one in the middle, with the stern symmetric face and fading blonde hair lowered his hand and sat down.

‘Very well’, he responded, visibly annoyed, jerking his notes straight and adjusting his glasses.

‘This is not the usual proceeding but as this process is rather quick, we can get it over with.’

The man in the middle cleared up his throat, read his notes for a few seconds and started:

‘Although you seem accomplished in your field, we did not see a need to invest in this type of project for the extended future.’

‘Indeed, although brilliant, your field is rather limited and inapplicable to greater problems’, the woman to his right pitched in.

‘We simply have no interest in this type of work, honestly. It does not justify these types of resources.’, the bulky man to the left barked.

By now, Dr. Krause was already very regretful of his attempt of prolonging the interview.

‘For this pilot project, we are looking for outstanding scientists and inventors which have made world changing contribution in their fields and still have a lot of potential to carry on, for a long time.’, the middle man carried on.

‘Thus, unfortunately, we see no fit between your profile and our pilot programme in life extension.’ he said, this time without standing up, without a goodbye handshake, only a piercing cold look masking a sense of entitlement, like the executioner just after he drops the guillotine. ‘Thank you.’


‘Pour me another one.’

The taste was strong and on point, unlike himself. ‘How is my research not relevant enough?’ Krause thought. ‘We are looking at _________. I mean, what else, what else could be a more fundamental question than this?’

‘Calm down there.’ said a voice from across the bar ‘I’ll have one of those he’s having. What’s troubling you?’

She drew closer to him, pushing along the manuscript she was reading.

‘I know you, Dr. Krause. My name is Charlie Blanche. I’m reading one of your collaborators’ work right now.’

‘Let me guess, Kazev?’


‘Nice paper on ______, by the way, Dr. Blanche. You can call me Yves, by the way.’

‘Thank you. I used your work.’

‘Yes, that’s how I know about your paper. Still, not many people know exactly what I meant.’

The bar was empty. Fair enough, it was only Wednesday.

‘So why the drinking?’

‘No good reason.’ he felt suddenly chatty, though. ‘ Have you heard of this pilot programme on life extension by Temporal Dynamics?’

‘Yes, of course. Everyone is talking about it…’ she paused. ’I think it’s madness.’

‘Madness or not, I just got turned down. My life’s work is not interesting enough. I’m not worth preserving, it looks like.’ he continued, bitter and drunk. ‘You know, I don’t get it, I am the head of _______ group in UWA, I have been cited over hundreds of thousands of times. Who are these people to judge the importance of my work, if they don’t a fraction of what I am doing?’

‘Well, I guess these people have a narrow definition of utility.’

‘It looks like the only one that matters, if effectively means that you get to live forever under this particular definition of utility.’

Turning to the barman, Krause asked ’What do you think Gustavo, about this life extension programme?’

‘I heard about it.’ Gustavo replied, absent, looking over his two remaining customers to catch the highlights of the football game.


‘Hm. It’s nothing for me, it seems like something for these rich, famous or smart people. I don’t care so much. What would I do anyway, if I got my life extended and my family didn’t – my little son? I don’t think I would want to do that.’

‘That’s a good point.’ Krause said, realising it was something he could never understand, for he was childless and unwed, a single child with barely any contact to his family.

He drank in silence.


His ride was soon to arrive, as he tried to balance himself outside of the bar. The night was fresh and the streets quiet. The lights seemed like they had taken a life of their own, oscillating in front of his eyes.

‘Well, if you want to feel like the whole process is complete bullshit, I got admitted.’ remarked Dr. Blance.

But he didn’t. He felt relieved, if anything. She was a brilliant researcher, far better and more promising than Kazev, in his highly regarded opinion.

‘At least they made one good choice.’ he thought more excited than usual.

‘At least they made one good choice! You might just offset the bad choice of Kazev.’ he proclaimed, a bit louder than needed, as he stumbled into the cab. ‘Good night!’


He found himself in front of his apartment. Unlocking the front door was suddenly a hard task. He stumbled into his dark, damp flat, shutting the door behind him. And it suddenly hit him, at the same time as his stomach rumbled due to the alcohol, that the feeling of rejection was painful. Although it had never been something he had never though of two months prior, his failure made him feel inadequate. He looked around, at different shades of dark – and felt the emptiness in his chest.


It was half past eleven, Sunday night. They sat on the edge of the road looking down the city. There were some lights on, but not many.

‘Yves, I honestly don’t understand your obsession with this programme.’

‘Well, it’s easy for you to say that – you don’t have to deal with a panel telling your work is too useless to be prolonged.’

This was a hill Blanche often found herself in. It was on the path of her bike ride to work.

‘I don’t think I’m going to enrol in the pilot programme.’

‘What? Why?’

‘I tried to reason about it – I don’t know. I think I just don’t have it in me – wanting to be here forever. Aren’t things beautiful because they are somehow time limited?’

‘Who cares? Think of all you can learn and make, all you can do. You can be almost a religious figure – but of something useful, of knowledge.’

‘I don’t want to. I don’t know how to explain it. It seems like a drag.’ she said quietly ‘Look at old people, they are so grumpy and jaded.’

‘Yea but that’s probably cause they are unfit, like they have joint pain or can’t move. The programme also preserves your health.’

‘Physical health.’ Blanche remarked. ‘I’m just saying… even now I have difficulty being a human being, connecting with others – I think it’s partially because I have lived enough to not be naive. I have seen that humans can be terrible creatures. I don’t know, I just always thought I was going to die soon, as soon as my brain stops being as quick or creative. And now…’

‘Maybe you can fix that.’

‘Fix what?’

‘Your troubled relation with life. Isn’t it partly chemicals?’

‘Yea, but will that still be me? Will I still be a good researcher, creative and hard worker, if I were to appreciate life?’

‘I would think so.’

‘I don’t know – work has been an escape, a distraction from reality. I used to say to a good friend of mine, reality literally poisons me.’

‘Yea it’s terrible right now, isn’t it?’

She laughed. The last airplanes were coming into the city far far away. It was already Monday.


’We deserve a chance’

These words were sprayed across the main hall of the university in bright red. It was a reference to the life extension pilot project – the aftermath of the public lecture had been somewhat unpredictable.

A lot of students felt that it was unfair that only a few chosen ones were able to have their lives indefinitely prolonged, their memories and thoughts backed up.

Soon enough, pamphlets calling out for a protest got distributed over campus. Some pamphlets were borderline defamation.

It was rumored that a technology investor, well known in the field of artificial intelligence, had been chosen to partake in the programme. The problem was that he was also known for his radical views on humanity. Thus, words like eugenics, forced euthanasia, oppression, classism got thrown around.

The unlucky staff of UWA that got into the programme became victims of harassment. Every single aspect of their lives, scrutinised, to show these people were not good enough – but who, then?

Yves suspected the ones protesting didn’t have a good answer.

Dr. Gross had it particularly bad. He was a number theory professor responsible for breakthrough works in cryptography – effectively guaranteeing existence of privacy. He was though, a rather meek and unimpressionable man. The days following the lecture, hoards and hoards of students poured into his lecture in analytic number theory, not with the intent to learn but to disturb. It got so bad he switched to cancelled his course and switched to remote teaching. Over videos. Comments disabled. What a pity for those really taking the class.

Yves couldn’t help but even feel sorry for Kazev. His research has become the prime target to a lot of scientists and speculators. Yves understood, had he been accepted, he would have the same faith.

It got as bad as some of the candidates receiving death threats. Although mostly empty threats, they ought to be frightening.

This sense of entitlement was completely foreign to Yves. ‘Do these people not realise they might not be worth saving?’ He would think to himself, passing by the corridors filled with students, with a great part of them discussing this pilot project. Inhumane.

Was it because there was a national call for applications rather than a hidden campaign?

But Yves found himself wondering, what does it mean, to be useful? Most people are not very useful, in the grand scheme of things. Most people would have a negligible impact if they were to disappear. Yves felt strange thinking about people this way. The planet would benefit if most people just disappeared. There are only a hand full of people who really would make a difference if they disappeared. A huge difference for whom, with regards to what?

Is this real life?

Around a year ago I wrote the following on my .pages journal:

My life lately feels like a dream. Like, it doesn’t feel real. Nothing feels really real, does that make sense? Probably not. It’s like it is all a dream and days are passing. The city became sunny this weekend, adding to the ethereal feeling of it all.

The dreamlike sensation has not vanished, but by now it feels rather familiar. Like how sometimes when I am alternating between my screen and the street, I briefly see those passing by as grotesque shapes and faces. It’s normal, right?

What do others do, in their free time? I often remain in bed thinking about the accelerated expansion of the universe, a grid expanding, black background, white lines. The universe, doy. Yes, I trained myself well, I can spend hours and hours in my head without emerging back but I am not sure if I like it, I can no longer detach myself from certain technical thoughts as easily as I detach from reality. I imagine myself as a sheet of paper that folds into itself when I am in this state. Eventually I roll out (rather, someone stretches me out), but it’s like if you leave yourself in this particular state for too long, you’ll inevitably carry the wrinkles and the biased tendency to fold back.

Recently I have been trying to feel things, rather than think things, and it turns out it’s damn hard and non intuitive. When was the last time you sat down and looked around, without listening to music, without looking at your phone and without rearranging terms or code in your head?

Man, honestly, I don’t remember.